
(This is the companion tool that pairs with the reflection.)
This reflection tool helps you gently identify:
what is draining you unnecessarily
what is outside your control
where you still have meaningful agency
There are no right answers.
You may return to this reflection whenever the weight feels heavy.
1. What am I trying to control right now that I cannot actually change?
(A situation, an outcome, another person’s response, a timeline…)
2. How does holding onto this affect my body, energy, or spirit?
3. What is within my control in this moment?
(Examples: my tone, my boundaries, my rest, my choices, asking for help…)
4. What would it look like to release one small piece today?
(Not everything. Just one.)
Take one slow breath in.
Exhale gently.
If it helps, return to the affirmation:
I release what I cannot control and focus on what I can.